#### Scars, Sadness, and Soulmates
### Healing isn't a prerequisite for love, being human is.
## Jan 26, 2025
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If you’ve ever felt like you’re not “healed enough” or “whole enough” to love or be loved, you aren’t alone. Culture has this misconception in which you shouldn’t date unless you’re perfectly stitched together, free of scars, immune of the bouts of sadness that makes us human.

Why?????

Why is it acceptable to lean on friends and community when we’re struggling, but not a romantic partner? **Why is love the one connection behind a paywall, locked behind the unrealistic expectation of being spotless and ideal?**

You don’t need to be perfect to deserve love. Love isn’t about presenting yourself as some flawless version of who you think you should be. It’s about showing up. Scars, struggles, and all. And letting someone see you. Because in love, we heal. We grow. We transform. The beauty of romance is that it holds up a mirror to the parts of ourselves we didn’t even know needed attention, and through that reflection, we can become more whole.

Love is powerful because it doesn’t require us to be ready, it helps us become ready. Love accepts every inch of who you are, and you deserve that. A love that listens when you share your ugliest truths and doesn’t flinch. A love that chooses you, fights for you, and celebrats the divine light in you, even when you can’t see it yourself.

You deserve to be caressed, considered, and held in all your humanity. You deserve love that reminds you, every single day, that you are enough. Exactly as you are. And if you want that, it’s okay to want it. It’s okay to open yourself to it. Because no mattery where you’re at in your healing, you are worthy of love.

Always.
